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Sara-R
#1 Posted : Monday, September 12, 2011 10:32:53 AM Quote
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Some musings for you whilst I'm waiting for my left hand to decide whether or not it really wants to be nailed to a board all day or will sort itself out to let me do some work, so in the meantime some thoughts from Cornwall.

Husband works with 16+ kids with learning difficulties and went on a course last week about autism. He was telling me all about it, we have several friends with kids on the autistic spectrum so we try to learn as much as we can so we can be supportive. One thing common to these friends is that they 'blame' themselves in all sorts of ways for the way their children are because there are theories about genetic links. Apparently the latest research has clearly identified a genetic mutation which, in theory, could be tested for in the womb. This begs the question if Einstein's mother had known, what would she have done?

So we are all dealt a hand in life, genes and all, and have to get on with it whatever that hand is and make the best of it. There are so many incredible things people with autism are capable of, whether it be computer programming or memorising train numbers! So I say to husband, there's always a bright side to everything, nothing good about having RA he says.

So it got me thinking, yes there must be. Oh yes, plenty of down sides but here we go, 1, 2, 3...........

1. This diagnosis has forced me to completely re-evaluate my life, slow down and appreciate the times that I feel good rather than take it for granted. I now value time with friends and little things more than I used to. I don't need to be an achiever any more. I don't measure my life by how many hours I work, how much money I can make or how many orders I can deliver. I celebrate getting out of bed, getting moving, staying up after 9.00 pm, going to a dance class, the basic things in life which give me pleasure.

2. I don't feel guilty about not doing housework and I don't worry about the house being a health hazard on the basis that I couldn't catch anything worse than I've already got!

3. I probably wouldn't have given up smoking yet without this diagnosis!

So hand still nailed to a board but I've done something useful in the meantime, this disease makes you very inventive as well doesn't it? I've got these thoughts out, hopefully RA friends can relate to it and it makes you smile.

Take care all
Polyanna Today
Sara Tomorrow
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Sue10
#2 Posted : Monday, September 12, 2011 5:35:16 PM Quote
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Hi Sara

I like your positive outlook, we certainly learn to appreciate the smaller things and put our lives in perspective.

Sue
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#3 Posted : Monday, September 12, 2011 6:01:13 PM Quote
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Sara, that it a really lovely post, the sort of one you could put on the fridge Smile

Thank you, Julia xx
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#4 Posted : Monday, September 12, 2011 6:07:41 PM Quote
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Hi

I do think that your goal posts move.

Making the most of good moments is a good plan thats for sure!

I have a book I have been using a lot with Michael who is a bit "aspbergery" and its called "smart but scattered" by Peg Dawson. Its American which can be offputting but stick with it. Its practical and great for ways of supporting young people get through life when the prefrontal cortex is effected for whatever reason.

Give it a go!

Jenni xx
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dorat
#5 Posted : Monday, September 12, 2011 6:21:33 PM Quote
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A lovely post Sara, it made me smile! Smile


Doreen xx
sheila_G
#6 Posted : Monday, September 12, 2011 11:07:53 PM Quote
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Thanks Sara

This is really positive and perfectly true. I certainly appreciate things more now. Obviously, none of us would choose to have any illness but it is all part of God's plan and who are we to argue. I know you are not religious but your philosophy of life is brilliant. It's being able to put it into practise that is the problem. Anyway, we will keep trying. Thanks again for this post.

Sheila x

P.S. I worked with people with autism so knew what you are talking about
LynW
#7 Posted : Tuesday, September 13, 2011 12:36:23 AM Quote
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Hi Sara

Lovely thoughtful post. Sometimes it is good to just stop and consider the positives in life. Although we all have this dratted, unpredictable disease we can all still enjoy the world around us and experience so many good things in life. So easy to forget sometimes.

Thank you for posting, cheered me up BigGrin

Lyn Smile
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#8 Posted : Tuesday, September 13, 2011 8:55:11 AM Quote
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What a fantastic, positive post, Sara. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with us.

Because I have RA I become a member of this forum and through it have made lifelong friends with some wonderful people. Without RA I would never have met anyof you and my life would, indeed, be poorer.

Love Jeanxx
smith-j
#9 Posted : Tuesday, September 13, 2011 7:44:31 PM Quote
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Sarah

Your post gave me a warm glow. My philosophy is to keep positive. It is the only way I know how to get through this. RA has me and I have RA. Sometimes we argue as we go along life's path but I have accepted RA into my life to make the path a little easier to tread. Like you my life has changed out of all recognition, but I think I prefer this new life of not worrying about the unimportant things and concentrating on what makes me, my family and RA happy.

Take care

Jackie
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#10 Posted : Tuesday, September 13, 2011 8:14:24 PM Quote
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Sara. Brilliant post!!! I worked with children aged 4-11 on the autistic spectrum, also profound and multiple learning difficulties. All our kids have severe learning difficulties as well as autism. All of these children bring immense pleasure as well as lots of hard work!! I wouldnt have missed the opportunity to have worked with them for anything, and wish with all my heart that I still could.
I am glad you want to support your friends, this is something that many people dont understand, although the kids get support, quite often the parents and families do notSmile
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